Relationship Advice From First Dates’ Fred Sirieix

The Debrief Meets Fred Sirieix From First Dates

Relationship Advice From First Dates’ Fred Sirieix

I used to think that I really knew about romance. I had that shit down and I was unbearably into it. And no, I don't mean that tired, low-level, peck on the cheek type of 'love'.

I'm talking about that over the top, unrealistically magical, painfully awe-inspiring, Disney princess' happily ever after, one fantastically suffocating kiss to rule them all, kind of stuff.

I think I was the reason they started to put the word 'hopeless' in front of 'romantic'.

Then things changed a tad. Break ups happened, dating apps terrified me and I lost my way a little bit. At least, that was until I watched Channel 4's First Dates for the first time and realised that what I dreamt of didn't even come close to the heart-wrenching real-world L. O. V. E. that we get to watch in action at the show's restaurant and hotels.

Right at the centre of it all, is Fred Siriex. You know, Fred? The handsome French Maitre d' who greets the blind daters as they arrive and offers tweetable snippets of advice about love and life and stuff. That dream machine.

Well, obviously I decided that if I want to learn about IRL romance and how to re-find it for myself, Fred was the guy to talk to.

So that's precisely what I did.

The lovely people of Channel 4 set me and Fred up on a date (yes, I'm going to call it a date) at the beautiful Galvin at Windows restaurant (where Fred works IRL outside of the show) and he taught me where I'm going wrong with dates (not going on them), how to get a bad one (be nice about it) and where romance stands in the modern, Tinder-focussed world. Watch the video below and feel free to take notes. I did…

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First Dates Hotel, Monday at 10pm on Channel 4

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Relationship Advice From First Dates’ Fred Sirieix

Relationship Advice From First Dates’ Fred Sirieix

There is no single, all-encompassing approach to love that works for everyone, but there are some common themes that run through the majority of long-lasting, happy relationships.

One man who knows how to spot which relationships have the right stuff from a mile away – or at least from across a restaurant – is Fred Sirieix, the maître d’ from Channel 4’s First Dates and spin-off First Dates Hotel.

Sirieix has seen more than his fair share of bad and good dates from long-term couples and first-timers a, so we quizzed him on what he reckons the key ingredients are for a healthy relationship.

Make Sure You’re Having Fun

“You’ve got to the person you are with and be able to enjoy their company,” says Sirieix. “It should be fun to have a conversation with your partner. If it’s not then you’ve got to ask yourself some questions about whether this is the right partnership or not. I think that you know instinctively inside your heart really whether it’s working or it’s not working.”

“I think that physical closeness is very important,” says Sirieix. “It’s one of the most difficult things to get when you’re in a relationship – to have that perfect physical connection with somebody. It’s not something you share with many people. It has to be special. It’s very rare to find.”

Those with their minds in the gutter will have assumed Sirieix is talking solely about about sex, but all kinds of physical contact are important.

“It’s a bit of everything,” says Sirieix. “That overall connection you get with the person you are with. How connected are you?”

Common Interests Are Key

Whatever you doing, if your partner enjoys it too, that’s going to be a boon for your relationship – and especially helpful for stopping it becoming stale in the long term.

“Have common interests, go on holiday, talk about what’s going on on the news,” says Sirieix.

“I don’t remember who said ‘if you are bored of London, you are bored of life’. In my restaurant we are on the 20th floor and people ask if I get get bored of the view. I say no – I don’t get bored because it is beautiful. You don’t get bored of beauty. You don’t get bored of love, of connecting.”

Work At It

Even if you have that special connection with someone, however, you have to work to keep a relationship in good shape.

“You’ve got to be able to keep that connection alive,” says Sirieix, comparing a couple to a business.

“If you have neglected or not nurtured your business it’s going to fail, but it doesn’t need to be this way.

You can have a business that goes on and on and on, because you have the right product and are doing the right thing and you are there listening to your customers. There’s lot of giving, a lot of listening.”

Then Work Harder At It

Seriously, Sirieix is all about hard work – it’s the advice he’d to give himself as a younger man.

“Work harder, that’s what I would say to myself,” says Sirieix. “I’ve always worked hard, but I would say work even harder. I think that hard work always beats talent. Talent alone is getting you nowhere.”

That applies across the board – in your career and relationships

“You can’t take things for granted at all,” says Sirieix. “You have to always strive for better.”

Listen Up

We asked Sirieix the biggest mistake people make on dates and in relationships, and there was one clear error above all to avoid.

“People don’t listen, really,” says Sirieix. “They’re not aware, not open. They’re not able to listen and to try.”

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Make Sure You’re Having Fun

“You’ve got to the person you are with and be able to enjoy their company,” says Sirieix. “It should be fun to have a conversation with your partner. If it’s not then you’ve got to ask yourself some questions about whether this is the right partnership or not. I think that you know instinctively inside your heart really whether it’s working or it’s not working.”

Get Physical

“I think that physical closeness is very important,” says Sirieix. “It’s one of the most difficult things to get when you’re in a relationship – to have that perfect physical connection with somebody. It’s not something you share with many people. It has to be special. It’s very rare to find.”

Those with their minds in the gutter will have assumed Sirieix is talking solely about about sex, but all kinds of physical contact are important.

“It’s a bit of everything,” says Sirieix. “That overall connection you get with the person you are with. How connected are you?”

Common Interests Are Key

Whatever you doing, if your partner enjoys it too, that’s going to be a boon for your relationship – and especially helpful for stopping it becoming stale in the long term.

“Have common interests, go on holiday, talk about what’s going on on the news,” says Sirieix.

“I don’t remember who said ‘if you are bored of London, you are bored of life’. In my restaurant we are on the 20th floor and people ask if I get get bored of the view. I say no – I don’t get bored because it is beautiful. You don’t get bored of beauty. You don’t get bored of love, of connecting.”

Work At It

Even if you have that special connection with someone, however, you have to work to keep a relationship in good shape.

“You’ve got to be able to keep that connection alive,” says Sirieix, comparing a couple to a business.

“If you have neglected or not nurtured your business it’s going to fail, but it doesn’t need to be this way.

You can have a business that goes on and on and on, because you have the right product and are doing the right thing and you are there listening to your customers. There’s lot of giving, a lot of listening.”

Then Work Harder At It

Seriously, Sirieix is all about hard work – it’s the advice he’d to give himself as a younger man.

“Work harder, that’s what I would say to myself,” says Sirieix. “I’ve always worked hard, but I would say work even harder. I think that hard work always beats talent. Talent alone is getting you nowhere.”

That applies across the board – in your career and relationships

“You can’t take things for granted at all,” says Sirieix. “You have to always strive for better.”

Listen Up

We asked Sirieix the biggest mistake people make on dates and in relationships, and there was one clear error above all to avoid.

“People don’t listen, really,” says Sirieix. “They’re not aware, not open. They’re not able to listen and to try.”

The new series of First Dates Hotel begins on Channel 4 at Monday 10th January at 10pm

Source: https://www.coachmag.co.uk/family-relationships/7184/relationship-advice-from-first-dates-fred-sirieix

10 tips from the love guru Fred Sirieix, TV’s First Dates Maitre d’

Relationship Advice From First Dates’ Fred Sirieix

It’s a simple recipe – singletons meet up at London restaurant Paternoster Chop House looking for dinner and, they hope, love!

Keeping an eye on everything is maitre d’ Fred Sirieix, 42, who (off-screen) is general manager of Michelin-starred Galvin at Windows restaurant.

Charismatic Fred, who has two children Andrea and Lucien, has become a huge viewers’ favourite – and is also seen as a bit of a love guru.

Here, he shares his 10 lessons on love and life.

Go with gut instinct

I worked on Michel Roux Jr’s BBC2 show Service and one of the producers asked me to take part in First Dates.

I wanted to check that they had good intentions and when I was assured of that, the heart was there – I was happy to do it right away.

I think that often your first feeling is right. It has become a must-watch because love is something we can all relate to and no-one is put on the show looking for them to fail.

It’s all about trust

Love and life in general is all about trust. I’m a very trusting person and that’s important in relationships.

Without trust there is nothing. You go through life and sometimes people disappoint you but you can’t set out not to trust.

I have that faith, although it doesn’t stop me from being hurt when you’re let down. When that happens you have to just take it on the chin and keep going.

Make someone feel special

Everything stems from that unconditional love you get from your parents.

I have been very lucky in that respect and that they taught me the importance of integrity and honesty.

I also learned from them that making people feel special is vital – and I try to do this in both my hospitality work and life.

My mum and dad were nurses. My mum always said I was lucky to be working with people when they were having a good time, while she worked with them when they were in pain.

I remember my dad telling me about a patient so scared he had the blanket pulled up so only his eyes were showing.

My dad made a connection with him and he could see a smile spread from his eyes and the fear of death vanish.

Follow your heart

My dad would have loved me to be a doctor but my heart wasn’t in it.

When I went to one of France’s top catering colleges when I was 16 I did really well and knew then that’s what I wanted to do. That was my calling.

I kind of feel a bit a doctor anyway as the maître d’ of a restaurant!

Watch and learn

Most times I can tell immediately which couples are going to hit it off. It’s not instinct – it’s knowledge.

I’ve been working in this hospitality environment for 25 years now and I can call on everything I’ve seen.

I spend all my time looking and listening to people and seeing how they behave. It’s always the good dates that stick in my mind, never the bad.

One of First Dates’ very first episodes featured dancer Frankie and this guy Muhala. I remember them eating olives and I just loved the way they were getting on together. There was an energy between them and I could see a connection right away.

And then there were the two girls Jo and Naomi. As soon as I met them individually I knew it was going to work out. They had the exactly same enthusiasm and I could tell they were going to be good together.

Fred Sirieix from First Dates (Channel4)

Relax, things will work out!

I have a new partner and things are going really well between us. I don’t feel any pressure because I’m in a series about finding love. I think I’m lucky because I’m quite grounded.

We’ve all been hurt at some stage. I was in love with a girl at 18 and she broke my heart. I’ve been broken-hearted several times since but I wasn’t ever deterred.

Recognise true love

You don’t fully understand love until you have children.

Being a dad is the best thing I have done and the best thing I will ever do. You can’t top it.

When my daughter was born I was so scared to hold her in case I dropped her.

The midwife actually pushed her into my arms.

I sat down and held her and kissed her.

It was such a tough learning curve. I took her out in the pram one day and ran straight home with her when she started to cry.

It was so much easier when I had my second child.

Share your time

Couples come back later to share their stories and tell me what happened next.

Because I was there when the magic happened, they feel they want to tell me, which is just great!

I get this all the time, not just from the series. I was in my own restaurant the other day and four separate couples started explaining how they got together.

It can all be in the first kiss. One woman said she didn’t fancy the guy that much until he snuck a kiss and she felt the magic.

And another girl fancied an office colleague and they got together when she found the courage to kiss him at a night out.

People see me as some kind of love guru and come to the restaurant just to ask my advice. But usually they just need reassurance.

Expect the unexpected

In the Christmas special episode there was an unforgettable proposal between Scott and Victoria.

It was so unexpected. I was talking at the bar and when I came back to reception I saw he was down on one knee and realised he was proposing – with a jelly ring from a packet of sweets.

That’s the beauty of First Dates, the fact it surprises and it feels magical when something that happens.

I still get touched when it works out. People come along for one simple reason – they want to find love, to find that special person.

When we pair them and it works then that’s a fantastic feeling.

Scott and Victoria have invited me to the wedding – but I’ve told them I’m not going if they want me to do the catering!

Be honest

About yourself and what you want. If you don’t get on with someone, it’s not the end of the world. Move on and find someone else.

Love really is everywhere so don’t become obsessed.

People are scared and have maybe been traumatised about a relationship failure but sometimes it’s all about realising it’s not working rather than being worried about being hurt again.

First Dates is on Channel 4 on Tuesdays at 9pm.

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